Collected Wisps of Thought

{January 16, 2008}   Seeking Your Wisdon

***** This blog was actually posted to my MySpace blog on January 2, but I forgot to move it over until now!

It has been a LONG time since I’ve posted a blog. I’ve admitted on previous occasions I’m a sporadic blogger at best. But here it is, a new year, and I decided it was time to write a new one.

I’m seeking advice from anyone willing to give it.

Here’s my question:

What’s the best way to get over the fact that someone has hurt you?

The situation is thus: said person has offered a lame, obligatory, half hearted apology in the past — the kind that allows them to say they have apologized but you and they both know that the apology did not come from the heart. It was a chess move that allowed them to claim superiority. We all know the kind… they’ve apologized, so what’s your problem?

The person does not show any signs of caring that they’ve hurt you, nor have they changed their behavior in any way. This is not the first time they’ve hurt you — not by a long shot — and most of the time they’ve been gloriously oblivious, happy in their own little world. In fact, you’ve been told in exact words that this is what matters: their happiness. When you have tried to talk to them about the situation they explode and are unwilling to listen, but they will continue to pretend that things are fine if you let them and are willing to play along.

So tell me, what do you do?

In the past I would probably have written a letter. It’s the one way I can say what I need to say and feel like I might actually get a chance to have that person’s attention for any length of time. But honestly, at this point I feel like that would be useless. Sometimes people care so little about anything outside their own world that I don’t think anything else can get in. This is what my experience has shown me is true with this person. When she is happy the planets orbit her.

So that leaves me with one option as I see it, which is to get over this hurt on my own. Which brings me back to my original question… readers, share with me if you will, your vast experience. What’s the best way to get over the fact that someone you once felt close to has hurt you?

I look forward to your collective wisdom.

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